Discover Why Men Cheat And How To Protect Your Marriage

May 18, 2013 by Yvonne Finn

Discover why men cheat and how to protect your marriage or relationship.
It would be too easy and simple to say that men cheat because they can.

Or, that it is part of their DNA and nature.

At times it might seem that men are cheaters and liars without morals
or a conscience.

However, in a book on this topic, The Truth About Why Men Cheat; Marriage
counselor M. Gary Neuman cites the following findings:

  • 48% of men rated emotional dissatisfaction as the
    primary reason they cheated.

  • 66% of cheating men report feeling guilt during the affair.

  • 77% of cheating men have a good friend who cheated.

 

Discover Why Men Cheat And How To Protect Your Marriage

So, armed with this information how can you protect your marriage and
relationship.

Well, in the first finding above the myth that “all men want is sex” is dispelled.
Men are emotional beings, though it might be expressed differently than
women do.
Men want to be shown appreciation and thoughtfulness! As a woman who
wants to protect her marriage be alert to the clues that your spouse
needs a “pat on the back” because he might not ask you for it.

But some other woman might see this need and fill it!

The number two finding  is very revealing and also a bit alarming, because
it shows that men who cheat are not all “jerks” and “losers”!
Men feel guilty but cheat anyway because they can compartmentalize
their feelings thinking that they will deal with “that” later.

In this case “that” is the guilt from cheating. Which is going to damage the
relationship no matter how long he waits to deal with it.
Discover Why Men Cheat And How To Protect Your Marriage

The number three findings goes to the old saying “be careful the company
you keep”.
When men hang around with other cheating men, it seems to legitimize their
bad behavior.
Of course, you cannot forbid your spouse to see his friends, but here are two
possible solutions to avoiding this problem:

  • Request that they spend their time together in an environment
    that offers less temptation, like at a sporting event or a restaurant
    for lunch rather than at a bar or club.
  • Build your social circle around happily married couples that share
    your values — it’ll create an environment that supports marriage.

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Healing The Pain Of Infidelity And Melting Your Man’s Heart

May 12, 2013 by Yvonne Finn

Healing the pain of infidelity can seem like an unrealistic and impossible dream when you first learn of your spouse’s devastating betrayal.

When a couple first get together to start their relationship, everything can be so rosy, perfect and happy that infidelity and the ensuing pain that it causes is unimaginable.

But when your relationship has been damaged by infidelity and you want to heal from the pain and eventually mend and save your marriage then you must find effective ways that will help you do this.

At first, the thought of forgiving your cheating spouse is not something you feel you will ever be able to do; however, this is something you will need to do, not just for them but for you and your marriage.

Healing the pain of infidelity starts with your decision to forgive your partner and accept that their cheating is now :

  • An irreversible part of your relationship story

  • And which you will now work on to put behind you and move on together.

Until you have taken this first step there will be nothing on which to rebuild your marriage!

Forgiving and accepting your spouse’s infidelity does not mean that you condone it or suddenly stop feeling betrayed and angry, it simply means that you are no longer trying to deny or block it out.

It has been said, that you can’t fix a problem until you accept that there is one and that is why facing your partner’s infidelity is so important in the mending of your relationship.   

Unless your spouse has become a serial cheater and no longer cares about you and your marriage then your willingness to forgive them will provide a starting point to help with healing the pain of infidelity and Saving Your Marriage

Time and loving commitment are also necessary and integral when you want to begin healing the pain of infidelity.

If you are the spouse who has been cheated on you will need to tell your unfaithful spouse exactly what you will need from them in order to feel valued, safe and secure in the relationship again.

Never be pressured into “moving on” until you feel that you have worked through the anguish and pain of your partner’s infidelity.

Sometimes a cheating spouse may want to quickly reconcile past their infidelity and sweep the whole hurtful event under the rug.

This is perhaps because of the shame and guilt that they are feeling, due in part to the pain they have caused you by cheating.

However, if you do not take the time that you feel that you need to heal from infidelity and put it firmly in the past then you might find the unresolved anger re-surfacing again and again in the future which will cause setbacks and make the process of reconciliation longer than it needs to be.  

Learn how to forgive your spouse and work through the pain of infidelity

Then Forgive And Melt Your Man’s Heart With These Steps

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Rebuilding Trust After An Affair In Your Marriage

April 29, 2013 by Yvonne Finn

Rebuilding trust after an affair in your marriage is a delicate task and will take time and caring objective advice.

This is not the time to turn to family members and friends who might be too emotionally involved to give impartial advice.

After you have discovered an adulterous affair in your marriage the first thing you will need to do is bring your emotional turmoil under control.

If you find that you are too angry to even speak civilly with your spouse then you will need some time  to “cool off” before you say words that will further damage your marriage.

Rebuilding the trust after an affair in your marriage can be done and you can do it with commitment and resources by trained professionals who specialize in repairing damaged relationships.

MarriageSherpa.com is one such resource that has several well researched and effective programs to help you heal all areas of your marriage that has been traumatized by your spouse’s infidelity.

If you have decided that you want to survive an affair and save your marriage then I know that you will find the resources at MarriageSherpa.com very meaningful for particular situation.

I wish you healing in your marriage!

Yvonne Finn
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A Blog For Couples Who Want To Stay Together Even After Adultery

April 11, 2013 by Yvonne Finn

A blog FOR COUPLES WHO WANT TO STAY together even after adultery in their marriage.

I would think that it is obvious that not all marriages traumatized by an affair ends up in divorce court.

Although adultery is still cited as the the leading cause of marriage breakdown many couples still manage
to work through the devastation and stay together.

As a pro-marriage researcher and content writer, I enjoy helping couples learn:

  • How to survive the affair

  • And stay together in their marriage.

Many couples, because of false pride and pressure from outside influences, such as family members and so called friends feel pressured into ending their marriages even if they would rather work things out and stay together even after adultery.

Am I saying that this is easy to do? No, I am not saying that and it is not easy to forgive such a hurtful and self-esteem damaging betrayal by someone who promised to love and be faithful to you forever.

However, there are many couples who do make the decision to find out what  the event of adultery means in their marriage and fix the problem(s) and move on to build stronger more enduring marriages.

It happens all the time and you can do it too!

Couples who want to stay together even after adultery have one very important thing going for them right from the start; they are committed to their relationship as a team and take the good times with the bad times.

Certainly adultery is considered one of the big “bad” times, because it truly is, both for the cheated on spouse as well as the cheater.

If the couple sees adultery as a symptom as something gone wrong in their marriage and not that the whole marriage is worthless, then they will do the hard work that is necessary to bring the relationship back to where they want it to be and end up staying together even after adultery by one or both partners.
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Surviving The Affair Will Be Harder If You Skip This Step

February 17, 2013 by Yvonne Finn

Surviving the affair will be harder if you skip this step so you would be wise to
learn what it is!

Here it is: Do and Say the Right Things in the RIGHT Order!Survive the Affair

Sounds simple, however, an adulterous affair is a traumatic and gut-
wrenching event that can leave you feeling so angry and resentful
that it can literally feel as if you are losing your mind and out of control.

So, doing and saying the right thing could prove harder than it sounds.

That is not to say that surviving the affair is impossible because over 70%
of couples who purchased the survive the affair program by Dr. Frank Gunzburg
state that their marriage had experienced an affair, yet they managed to remain
together.

A survey since releasing this marriage help resource shows that over 60,000
couples have used the information in it to help save their marriages!

The resource has:

  • Helped couples restore the trust

  • Rebuild honesty

As I said before this is not complicated but rage and the feelings of rejection and betrayal
can cause the cheated on spouse to lose focus, so Dr. Gunzburg  has laid out the healing
steps in an uncomplicated process.

Many couples fail to save their relationship because they do not follow the right steps, but
that does not have to be you.

So, if you want to:

  • Heal from the affair

  • Feel normal again

  • If you want to make your relationship better than it was before

Then you will want to discover the 3 steps that will make it easier for you to survive the affair
and begin to the process of  Saving Your Marriage

Discover How To Survive The Affair

Remember that surviving the affair will be harder if you do not do  and say the right things
in the right order!

I wish you health and healing in your marriage.

 

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Is It Too Late To Save Your Marriage After An Affair

January 21, 2013 by Yvonne Finn

Is it too late to save your marriage after an affair?
That is of course a question that only you and  your
spouse can answer.

However, if  you decide that you want to save your marriage then
you can take heart that it can be done because other couples
have successfully done so.

When you start from this positive perspective you will be more
optimistically motivated to follow strategies that will give you the
outcome you hope for.

Deciding to save your marriage will take emotional, spiritual and even
physical strength.

Your commitment to one another and the marriage must be absolute!

The affair and the emotional fallout that has torn the fabric of your
marriage must obviously be worked through, however, it cannot be
allowed to become or remain the centerpiece of the relationship.

This a time for honest communication that will address the underlying
cause of the affair.

Healing the relationship will take time for each of you to work separately
and together to save your marriage.

Some couples decide to go it on their own while others enlist the help of trained marriage
help professionals.

Whatever route you choose, I wish you healing in your marriage!

 Click this link if you are a couple who want to use a professional to help save your marriage.

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Discover 3 Critical Steps To Rebuilding Love Right Now

January 19, 2013 by Yvonne Finn

Discover 3 critical steps to rebuilding love right now
even if your spouse says they no longer love you, and
you feel more like enemies than friends.

You may be wondering what chance is there for
turning the relationship around and restoring the love?
(The love may NOT  really be dead… more on how that’s possible in a
second.)

Rebuild The Love
What if your spouse walked away?

Can you persuade them to return, even after you
poured your heart into it?

The answer is “yes”
(but the techniques, even though extremely
effective and powerful, are not as conventional
as you might think.
In fact, you may be a little apprehensive about trying them.)

But what do you really have to lose?

If you are brave enough to implement the “last-
chance” efforts I am about to reveal from my
friend and colleague Frank Gunzburg, PhD, it is
possible, even though not guaranteed, that you
can enhance your success by tapping into
marriage-saving methods that may be completely
new and more effective than anything you’ve
previously tried.

This is important… let me explain.

Dr. Frank Gunzburg just released new strategies
designed specifically for crisis couples who
feel vulnerable, helpless and desperate to save
their marriages.  (Even couples where only ONE
spouse wants to save the marriage.)

These are seemingly hopeless marriages where one
spouse either walked away, or recently revealed
they no longer loved the other.

If I am describing your marriage, then please
read on because you are NOT at all alone.
Here’s why.

I’ve known about Dr. Gunzburg’s remarkable
success for almost 3 years, and one thing his
organization does well is research.  Recently
they performed a survey on a total of 1285
troubled marriages, and the findings were heart-
breaking.

To give you a picture of the group, 93% are
still married, the average age is between 35-55,
and 75% of the couples have been married longer
than 11 years.

The unfortunate discovery was that only 5% of
the couples rated their marriage as happy.

* 49% rated their marriage as unhappy
- but unwilling to divorce…
* 31% rated their marriage as critical
- they are currently separated…
* 15% rated their marriage as desperate
- the divorce papers are filed…

Over 41% of the Couples are Separated

Even though 30% of the audience stated that both
individuals in the marriage are equally
committed to saving the marriage, a
disappointing 60% said their spouse cares little
for the relationship, while they are desperate
to save it.

Is the love really gone when one spouse wants
out?

Read more …

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Watch This Video If You Love Your Boyfriend And Hate His Hobbies

December 4, 2012 by Yvonne Finn

You need to watch this video if you love your boyfriend and hate his hobbies!

Why?

Because it could not only save your relationship but make it more exciting and
sexier too.

If you have been told that spending every moment together is how to cement
a romantic relationship, then it is time to rethink that by watching the video now.

 

 

In this video you will learn that it is possible even likely that you will love
your boyfriend and hate his hobbies, some are most of them anyway.

Does that mean that your relationship is doomed?

No! And you will see why when you watch the video.

Here are some of the things you will discover.

  • Men aren’t women and they see spending “time together”
    differently than women do.

  • If you enjoy some of his hobbies sometimes, or never

  • If some of your hobbies bore him too

  • How to give each other time apart without feeling rejected

  • How to use time apart to reset your emotions

  • How to enjoy your own hobbies

Click the link here and get ready to discover how to love your boyfriend and hate his hobbies

Here is a great example of how your boyfriend sees spending time together.

He loves Baseball and invites you to game with him.

Now, even if you NEVER say one word to each other throughout the entire game, he
will see that as spending together.

Why? Because you were physically together!

You on the hand wanted to emotionally connect through talking or cuddling.

The video and the link will help you discover how to handle this very common
relationship challenge and make it enhance rather than destroy your relationship.

Watch the video then click the link below!

Discover How To Love Your Boyfriend And Hate His Hobbies!

Then Discover How To Melt Your Man’s HEART Here

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Melt Your Man’s Heart To Get The Ring This Way

December 2, 2012 by Yvonne Finn

Melt your man’s heart to get the ring this way requires you to be
courageous.

Whether you are on your first date or staring a new relationship;
have the courage to be yourself!

That does not mean you can OR SHOULD unload your entire life story in
one sitting, but there is a world of difference between being private and
being a liar or a fake.

If you are one of those women who feel that you have to lie
in order to melt your man’s heart and get the ring all I can say
is “Don’t do it!”

Lies have a way of being found out and pretending to be someone
you are not will have you always feeling insecure and on edge.

This will not put you in a good place to melt your man’s heart and get
the ring.

Instead, your partner will pickup on your tenseness
and because he is not able to determine what is
just “not right” he might reject the relationship
and of course you will also feel rejected.

Everyone wants to be seen in their best light, but pretending
to be what you are not is no way to accomplish this.

For example, some women worry about having had too
many romantic partners, so they lie and reduce the
numbers to what they consider to be:

  • More respectable

  • More acceptable

However, this can be damaging to the relationship and not worth the gamble.

Better to be upfront about the numbers of  your romantic partners and say you
are very discriminating and would not settle for less than you desire and deserve.

Your current date or new partner may or may not find these numbers acceptable,
but that will be their choice and at least you can move on without fear of being found
out and being rejected after you have much more invested in the relationship.

When you lay the the ground work to melt your man’s heart and get the ring this
way you are building a much more realistic and dynamic relationship than one
built on fear and insecurity.

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He Pulls Away Because You Changed

November 19, 2012 by Yvonne Finn

Are you telling yourself that he pulls away because he is a jerk
or afraid of commitment?

Some men do pull away for those reasons, but what if he emotionally pulls away because you have changed.

Far too many women feel that they have to be manipulative or not be themselves to get
a man to love and stay with them.

This  move is so wrong and so stupid, I cannot stress how foolish that idea is to a healthy long-term romantic relationship.

Whether you are a bitch or the nice girl next door you should respect your man enough to let him fall in love with the real you.
That way you will never again worry that he pulls away because you changed.

Why do you think men stay with women even though they seem to be bitchy or loud or demanding etc.
Well, it is because these women are real, they are themselves authentically and whether we like them are not, their men like and love them and that is the point.

These women have allowed their men to love them just the way they are.

What do you think would happen if these bitchy women had pretended to be little
miss sweet as spice?
How long do you think she could keep up that masquerade?
And what do you think usually happens when her man learns that he has a not so nice spouse or partner?

Unless he does something equally stupid, such as trying to change her, he might decide that it would be better if he pulls away because she has changed.

Men don’t pull away from women who do this!       

Have you heard this quote: “Our character is what we do when we think
no one is looking”?
Yeah, well… that wisdom can be applied to relationships as well.
You can get a good indication of the character of a potential
girlfriend/boyfriend by just observing what they do and how
they treat others when it “doesn’t matter.”

What they say is sometimes less important than how they say it.
In other words actions speak louder than words.

If you are faking, eventually you will slip up!
Let your man and indeed everyone, get to know, like and love the real you.
That way no one will pull away because you have changed.

 

These women never worry about their men pulling away.

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