The way to establish boundaries in romantic relationships is to know
Many romantic partners do not allow their complete indentity to
show through until after the relationship is established.
Moreover, some couples feel that there should not be any limits
to the access they have to one another.
It is in fact imperative that couples establish boundaries in
Because no matter how loving or intimate a marriage or marriage-like
relationship is; each of you is still and will always be a unique
Choosing to be in a marriage or long-term relationship does not
mean that you give up who you are.
It means that you bring your specialness to the other person and to
the union to form a new creation.
In creating and maintaining this new entity, you do not have to relinguish
your selfhood and should not expect or ask the other person to do so.
Keeping a strong individual indentity does not mean you love your spouse any less.
Just the reverse is true!
It means you trust your mate enough to let them see and get to know
and love the real you. Strengths and weaknesses. Likes and dislikes.
Establishing boundaries and being yourself allows your life partner
to feel free and secure enough to be authentically themselves without fear of your rejection.
The strength of the relationship and the bond that holds you together should
be in your willingness to support each other, not because you own them.
Boundaries protect inside and outside the marriage!
You can establish your own personal space requirements and learn and accept
your partner’s as well.
One Boundaries To Establish Is In:
Couples expect and hope to be loved unconditionally in romantic relationships.
However, there are times when this ideal must not and cannot be maintained.
No one deserves to live with abuse!
If your spouse is abusing you and will not stop or seek help, then you must
protect yourself by establishing boundaries tot he extent of your self- love.