Is It Worth Saving My Marriage After His Affair?

Is it worth saving my marriage after his affair?
This is unfortunately a terrible question many wives find themselves asking  after this life-altering event in their relationship.

You see the answer will depend on several things:

Here are just 3:

  1. Do you still love, respect and feel committed to your husband and the marriage?
  2. Is the affair just a one time lapse in judgement
  3. Is your husband willing to do the work it will take to mend and rebuild the marriage

There are other things that you will have to work on to find out if it is worth saving your marriage, but they will, more or less fall under one of the 3 categories in the list above.

In the aftermath of your husband’s affair and when you can speak to him without pure rage and a sense of betrayal you will get a feeling as to whether your marriage is still a priority and worth saving.

If this is the first time your husband has had an affair and he is almost as shocked and traumatized by his betrayal as you are, then you will need to decide if you can forgive and get past the affair.

Usually, if your marriage is very strong and has built up a very rich emotional bank account and the affair is just a one time “withdrawal” or debit from this account then you will be better able to
survive the affair.

However, your husband must do his part to help you heal and feel secure in the marriage once again.

You must communicate honestly with him so that he is clear as to what you need him to do to help you decide if it is worth saving your marriage after his affair.

Is it worth saving my marriage?

Only you can decide!

But if you want help saving your marriage here is a very helpful online resource!

Here is a quote from MarriageSherpa.com, one of my “go to” online marriage saving resources,  on the question of whether it is worth saving your marriage after his affair.

“You can save your marriage if you know what’s ruining it!”

Notice that they did say or imply that it would be easy, just that you can save your marriage with work, time and commitment.

What I like about MarriageSherpa.com is that they understand the pain of an affair and all the terrible devastation that are unleashed by this betrayal .

MarriageaSherpa has practical advice and strategies to deal with:

  1. Infidelity images
  2. Forgiveness
  3. Lack of trust
  4. Rebuilding self-esteem
  5. Re-establishing intimacy
  6. And much….

Get the help that will help you decide if your marriage is worth saving.

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2 Responses to Is It Worth Saving My Marriage After His Affair?

  1. Nettie says:

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  2. Aundre says:

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