Survive The Affair Together

April 1, 2015 by Yvonne Finn

Survive the affair together even if only one of you cheated but you want to save your marriage.

Fortunately, there are many couples who have managed through:

  • Hard work
  • Loving commitment
  • Good guidance AND support

To rebuild their broken marriage and go on to live happy and enjoyable lives TOGETHER.

To survive the affair together, both of you will have to decide that your marriage is:

  • Worth saving
  • Worth working for

It will not be easy and there may be many setbacks as you work to:

  1. Rebuilding trust
  2. Control haunting infidelity images
  3. Learn to forgive
  4. Re-establish intimacy, etc.

An affair is one of the most damaging events of any marriage and some relationships
do not survive the trauma.

Will yours?

If you decide that your marriage still has value to you and both you and your spouse
want to survive the affair together.
Then I would like to recommend the following resource to help you heal and rebuild your
relationship.
After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful

Survive an Affair FREE course
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To survive the affair together you must resolve not to call it quits before giving your
marriage every opportunity to be healed.
Even if all you can do right now is meet each others basic needs, then do that!
Keep the lines of communication open even if all you do is just say “Hi” or “Goodnight”.

 

Generously Forgiving Makes Surviving An The Affair Possible

February 17, 2015 by Yvonne Finn

Generously forgiving your spouse can make it more possible to survive the affair
and stay together.

I am not discounting or minimizing how hurt you feel and how difficult it can be
to be forgiving of such a betrayal in your marriage.
However, forgiving while still bearing a grudge towards him or her will only poison
the relationship going forward.
Many spouses say they have forgiven an affair but then they will never again trust
their mate.
Is that really forgiveness? And can a marriage be all that it should be without mutual
trust?

I don’t think it can and I hope you don’t either!

Forgiveness for such a traumatizing hurt as an affair will not come easily.
So, don’t rush it or try to sweep it under the proverbial rug.
Take your time! Talk through it. Get the root cause of why the affair happened.

Then when you feel ready to forgive, do so with all the generosity that you can.
Forget the grudge bearing, tight- fisted  forgiveness that some couples have in
their relationship with each other.

Marriage requires unrestricted intimacy and closeness.

You will not enjoy that without trust!

Forgive and learn to trust again …

Read more about forgiveness here …

 

 

Coping With Emotional Affairs

January 22, 2015 by Yvonne Finn

What are emotional affairs and how to cope with them and save your
marriage or relationship?

According to Oprah.com, emotional affairs are the new adultery.
Is she correct?
Well, many of these types of connections do lead to physical cheating.

But even when they don’t they can be devastating to the other partner
in the relationship, because it is felt as a kind of betrayal of intimacy.

Some spouses even go so far as to say that they could handle a sexual
affair  by their partner better than an emotional one!

Whether that is true or not; emotional affairs are confusing and damaging
to the healthy connections needed to maintain the primary union.

To cope with an emotional affair both spouses must agree that it is an issue
AND the one having the affair must decide to stop it immediately with no excuses.
That is to say: The emotional affair is not going to be allowed to cause irreparably
harm to the marriage.

Because an emotional affair is often nonsexual the spouse who is having one can claim
that there is no harm being done.
However, that is not true for the partner who feels left out and emotionally betrayed.

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Making Up When You Do Not Feel Like It

January 5, 2015 by Yvonne Finn

All couples have disagreements and some of these quarrels can become so
divisive and intense that the couple even consider breaking up instead of making up.
However, it takes wisdom to resolve the contentious issue(s) in a timely and gracious
manner to reconcile to move on together.

It is not the dispute that ends the relationship; it is the unwillingness
to “give an inch” on the part of one or both partner(s).
Making up when you do not feel like it then becomes the only way to move forward.

This is based on two important elements:

  • How mature you are
  • How much you value the relationship

Learn to forgive and rebuild communication!

It takes maturity to look at a situation objectively and own our part in it.
This means how are we contributing to what is or has happened and what
we are prepared to do to fix what needs repairing.

Being mature also means allowing this same privilege to your spouse.
Listen respectfully to their side of things before jumping in to shout or
shut them down!

Many couples say they value their relationship with their spouse above
everything, yet rush to break up at the first sign of trouble.
How much do you value your union and has it really been tested?

Remember that people are not throw away items and everyone wants
to be valued and given a second chance.
Don’t you?

Discover How to Make Up with Your Partner after a Fight

Saving Your Marriage – An Alternative To Marriage Counseling

November 15, 2014 by Yvonne Finn

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committed to saving their marriage relationship on their own.
They are very sure and clear-eyed about the work and emotional strength that it will
take to get past the trauma of infidelity.

They know that they will have to address some of the following issues successfully if they want
to save the relationship:

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How Long Will It Take To Rebuild Your Marriage Post Affair

November 14, 2014 by Yvonne Finn

Only you can determine how long it will take to rebuild your marriage post affair!

You see,  you can only rebuild your marriage after you have decided that it is worth saving in the first place.

If your spouse has damaged your marriage by having an extramarital affair your feelings of anger and betrayal can be so devastating that you might feel that your marriage is at an end.

At first, you cannot see how there is any way to rebuild your marriage post affair.

Here is this person who you trusted to keep their promised to love and be faithful to you forever now bringing such shame and hurt into your life.

The pain and heart-break that you feel cannot be measured and will for a time seem insurmountable.

The recurring images of them together is so hurtful that you might not even be able to speak to your spouse much less see yourself staying in your marriage.

How long will it take to rebuild your marriage post affair?

That question can only be answered after you have truly coped with the trauma of the affair, and that will take time and should NOT be rushed.

Just as with any grieving process, there are stages as you progress to closure.

Healing from your spouse’s cheating is no different, you must take the time you need to go through each step.

Then your cheating spouse must be willing and committed to helping you believe in them again, rebuild your self-esteem and recreate the intimacy in your marriage.

So, how long it will take to rebuild your marriage post affair will be contingent on at least two things:

  1. First you must decide to save your marriage
  2. Then you must work on feeling good about yourself and you spouse again

Can this be done? Yes! Many couples have been able to rebuild their marriage post affair and I am rooting for you being one of them.

Save Your Marriage Healing Plan

November 10, 2014 by Yvonne Finn
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Save Your Marriage Healing Plan

Survive the affair together is achievable if the couple decides to get all the help they
can.
It will need committed effort from both partners.
The first thing that will need to be decided is the question of whether the couple want
to save the marriage and remain together.
That is however, only the first step in what will most likely be a long and painful
journey with some setbacks along the way.

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Some couples are able to work through this painful time on their own while others will
need the expertise and counseling of appropriately trained professionals.
For those couples who choose the “do it yourself” path there are some very helpful resources
like the one in this post.

It is called The 21 Step Spontaneous Healing Plan.
It is a free report and will help to know what to do right now after the affair and every step
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  • 10 things you must do TODAY…
  • Decide if you should stay or go…